How A TV Show Became My Therapy

How A TV Show Became My Therapy

I don’t go to therapy like Ted Lasso does in the show.
But when I watched the series for the second time, I realized something important:

This show is my therapy.

It transforms me.
It helps me calm down, think clearer, and become a better version of myself.
Through every episode I live different scenarios, different choices, different reactions.
And many times I suddenly see answers to my own hard questions.

Usually, I write important thoughts in my notebook.
Now I want my blog to become that notebook.

A place where I collect rules, lessons, and ideas that keep me going.
So next time life feels heavy, I can come back here, read these notes,
remember what really matters, switch back to a positive view on life
and continue doing my work.

That is why I am saving these lessons here.

What you will read next are not “TV quotes”.
They are my lessons from Ted Lasso.
How I see them. How I live them.

1. Curiosity Is Stronger Than Judgment

Most people judge first, ask questions later.
Ted does the opposite.

In life and in coaching I see the same pattern:
When you judge, you close the door.
When you are curious, you open it.

Curiosity lets you see the full picture.
You stop reacting emotionally and start understanding what is really happening.
Understanding always gives you more options than judgment.

2. One Person Who Believes In You Can Change Everything

You don’t need 1,000 people to cheer for you.
Sometimes you just need one person to say, “I believe in you.”

I saw it in the gymnastics gym.
I saw it on the Cirque du Soleil stage.
I see it in our community every week.

When someone believes in you a little more than you believe in yourself,
your shoulders drop, your mind opens, and progress becomes possible again.

That’s why I repeat this phrase so often
and why I expect my students to believe in themselves too.

3. You Don’t Learn Life (Or Handstands) From Theory

There is a simple rule I use in gymnastics:

You can’t learn balance from talking about balance.
You learn it only by experience.

The show reminds the same truth about life.
You don’t grow by thinking about problems again and again.
You grow by acting, by trying, by making small experiments,
even when you don’t feel ready.

New experience → new feelings → new understanding.
This is where real progress comes from, not from “bla-bla-bla”.

4. Asking For Help Is Real Strength

One of the strongest messages in the series:
You break faster when you try to carry everything alone.

We all like to be “strong”.
We all like to say, “I’m fine. I’ll handle it.”
But there is a limit.

Sometimes the bravest move is to say,
“I can’t do this alone. I need help.”

In training, in family, in business, in mental health — it’s the same.
You are not less of a human, coach, parent, or leader if you ask for support.
You are just honest.
And honesty is a better foundation than fake strength.

5. Your Mind Also Needs Training

In sports we accept that muscles get tired.
We understand that legs need rest, shoulders need care.

But with the mind it’s different.
We think it must always be okay.
When it is not okay, we feel guilty or weak.

Ted Lasso shows how inner storms slowly start to control everything:
work, relationships, performance, health.

Talking about what hurts
and taking care of your mental state
can be more powerful than any training session.

Your brain is also a muscle.
It needs recovery, attention, and clear rules
just like your body.

6. Forgiveness Frees You First

Forgiveness in the show is never simple or quick.
It is uncomfortable, emotional, messy.

But there is a very clear pattern:
Holding anger keeps you stuck in the past.
Forgiving doesn’t erase what happened,
but it gives you your energy back.

You don’t forgive because “they deserve it”.
You forgive because you deserve not to carry this weight forever.

For athletes, parents, partners, and leaders
this is one of the hardest but most useful skills.

7. Leadership = Love + Responsibility

Leadership is not about being the loudest voice in the room.
It is not about controlling people.

Real leadership looks more like this:

• You see potential where others see “average”.

• You give people tools and space to grow.

• You support, but also demand.

• You care about the person, not only about the result.

This is how I see my role as a coach and as the creator of Kononov Club
Not to be a “boss”,
but to create an environment where people can really change.

8. Nobody Wins Alone

The show is a constant reminder:
Talent is great. Team is greater.

In football, in gymnastics, in online business — it’s the same.
You can be very strong alone,
but without support, feedback, and connection
you eventually hit a wall.

No one reaches their full potential in isolation.

For me this is a big reason why I built a community, not just programs.
The right people around you can speed up your progress more
than any “perfect plan” on paper.

9. You Change Only When You Decide For Yourself

You cannot force another person to change.
You cannot push them into transformation.

Real change happens when you say:
“Enough. I want a different future. I choose it.”

Not to impress someone.
Not to look good on social media.
Not because you are scared of judgment.

But because you feel deep inside:
“I can live better than this. And I’m ready to pay the price of effort.”

This inner decision is the real starting point,
for training, for health, for relationships, for business.

10. You Don’t Stop Being Yourself — You Just Understand Yourself Better

One of the most powerful ideas in the final episodes:
We don’t become completely new people.
We just see ourselves with more honesty and clarity.

You are still you.
But:

• a bit more aware

• a bit more brave

• a bit more kind

• a bit more responsible

And sometimes, to reach this version of yourself,
you have to accept that you cannot do everything alone
and that needing support is not a failure, it’s part of growth.

Why I Keep These Lessons Here

This article is not just “content” for the blog.
It is a personal toolbox.

On the days when life feels too heavy,
when I doubt my path,
when motivation is low
and problems look bigger than they really are,

I want to be able to come back here
read these lessons again
reset my perspective
and go back to my work —
teaching, coaching, creating —
with a clearer head and a stronger heart.

If these thoughts help you too,
then this show has done even more than it planned.

and if you ever feel stuck,
remember:
you don’t have to be perfect
you just have to keep moving
and be honest about what you feel and what you need

that’s how real progress starts